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[00:00:00] Hello, everybody's Scott Markowitz here with Ryan and Scott Media. And I just wanted to talk very quickly about the distinction between an expectation and an agreement. What I have discovered in, uh, my business, in my life, in fact, is that there's a huge difference between those two things, but very often we settle for expectations and we overlook the.
and the importance of agreements. So on the one hand, a lot of times we have expectations that, you know, uh, our coworkers or other people, our clients sometimes, or our vendors, we expect them to do certain things. Uh, and this also certainly travels over to our personal lives. Right. Sometimes, uh, our spouses or our significant others, we have expectations and we want them to, [00:01:00] uh, to do things just because that's what we want.
But we don't always, uh, have that discussion with them to transform, uh, a desire from the realm of expectation into something more. There's really two different things that you could potentially get from. Carrying or, or having an expectation. The first thing is, well, that person, uh, or that entity has met my expectation.
Okay, great. They've met your expectation. No big deal. That's what you expected. You expected it. You got it. No big deal. It's just kind of eh, man. Right? But the second thing that can. When you're carrying an expectation is that the expectation is not met, then what happens? Oh, man, now you're, now you're mad.
Now you're upset. How [00:02:00] could they do this to you? What, what? You know, What are they thinking? They don't respect me. All kinds of terrible ideas and thoughts will start to flood your mind when an expectation is not met. The good news is that you can avoid all. By simply recognizing your expectation to begin with and transferring that into the world of agreement.
Okay? So if you have an expectation, if you notice that you are, uh, harboring an expectation, the next step would be to go and, and talk to that person or entity, and make sure that you create a space where you two can agree. on what's going to happen. You might want a certain specific outcome, they might not be able to do that.
Right. So here's an example for my life. You know, I used to, I used to work, [00:03:00] uh, for a company called Alchemy X, uh, which is a fantastic company. And, you know, they're one of the largest integrated media companies in the world, and, or not the world, but in the, in the United States. And, you know, I did a lot of, uh, TV development work.
And, uh, you know, one time one of my managers came to me and they, they, they were upset. We expected you to have this, this pilot finished this week and it doesn't appear that you're going to, to hit that mark. And I said, I'm really sorry. You know, like I, the schedule that, you know, was given to me had me finishing several weeks out.
So what we can do from this point is we can, um, we. Kind of decide together, you know, like this is where the project is, and so like, where do you want it to be? Like we can, you know, I was expecting it to be a hundred percent in about two weeks from now. Is it acceptable if it's about 80% of, [00:04:00] you know, where I was expecting?
Uh, and, and I can have that by the end of this week, you know? And then I talked about what that 80% would look. And we were able to kind of negotiate from there. And, um, once we had that agreement, then things were good between us. You know, everything was, everything was, was happy. Uh, and, you know, it turned out that we were able to deliver a product that everybody was happy with.
I was, you know, as an editor, I'm never gonna be a hundred percent satisfied. Uh Right. So, but I was, I was happy with, you know, the point I was able to get it. Within, within the timeframe that they needed. My, my dogs were barking. But, um, that's, that's the difference between an expectation and an agreement.
And so I, I certainly hope that you guys can maybe make some use out of that distinction. That's kind of the, the style that I use for, for working with, uh, with my clients that I'm coaching. [00:05:00] There's a lot of value in creating these, these distinct. Between certain concepts, you know, because like a good coach really is not there to, to do things for you or to tell you what to do.
A good coach is there to, to kind of just shift your perspective to, to show you, you know, just a different angle, a different way to view things. And so using, using metaphors and using distinctions and just question. Those are, those are the things that that make a really great coach distinctions, metaphors, there's a big difference between expectations and agreements.
If you have any questions for me, if there's anything that you'd like to discuss about maybe starting your own business, starting your own photography and video production business, I would love to hear from you, [email protected] is the email I would love to hear from you. And [00:06:00] that is it this week, my photo fiends. You have a fantastic week and I will catch you next time.
